Being an ideal father
Being an ideal father or for that reason, the mother is not an easy task. We are only individuals with our own desires, weaknesses, and obstacles. . Let us take a moment to tell our children that we love them, give them that safe place and ease their existence with a kind word, hug, or encouragement. Here is a wonderful poem to remind us of that:
Father forgets
FATHER FORGETS
As you lie sleeping, I’m thinking this, one little paw creases under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your moist forehead. I stole it alone in your room. A stifling wave of guilt washed over me just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library. I went to your bedside guiltily. The things I was saying, son, are you there: I’ve been crossed over to you. As you dressed for school, I scolded you because you just gave your face a dab with a towel. For not washing your shoes, I took you to the mission. When you dropped some of your stuff on the concrete, I yelled out angrily. I made errors at breakfast, too. You’ve spilled things. You’ve gulped the food down. On the table, you place your elbows. You spread butter on your bread that is too thick.”And as you began playing, you turned and waved a hand and I made for my train, and you called,” Goodbye, Daddy! and I frowned and said, “Hold your shoulders back!” in reaction. And in the late afternoon, it started all over again. I spied you as I was coming up the lane, down on your knees, playing marbles. Your stockings had holes in them. In front of your boyfriends, I embarrassed you by marching you to the house ahead of me. The stockings were expensive and you would be more cautious if you had to buy them! Just imagine that, son, from a father! Do you remember, when I was reading in the library later, how timidly you came in, with a kind of hurt look in your eyes? You paused at the door when I looked up at my report, frustrated with the intrusion. “What do you want it to be?” I snapped. You said nothing, but raced through a stormy drop, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and tightened your small arms with the love that God had put in your heart to flourish, and that even neglect could not wither away. And you were gone then, pattering up the stairs. Well, son, my paper fell from my hands shortly afterward and a horrible sickly fear came over me. What did the habit do to me? The habit of seeking fault, of reproaching-this was my reward for being a boy to you. It wasn’t that I didn’t love you; it wasn’t that I wanted you to be too young. I used the yardstick of my own years to weigh you. And there was so much about your character that was good and fine and real. The little heart of you was over the broad hills as big as the dawn itself. Your spontaneous urge to rush in and kiss me good night demonstrated this. Tonight, nothing else matters, son. In the darkness, I came to your bedside, and I knelt there, embarrassed! It’s a faint atonement; I know that if I told you these things during your waking hours, you wouldn’t understand them. But I’ll be a true daddy tomorrow! I’m going to chum you, and I’m going to cry when you cry, and I’m going to laugh when you laugh. When impatient words come, I’ll bite my tongue. As if it were a ritual, I’m going to keep saying: “He’s nothing but a child-a little child!”I’m afraid I’ve visualized you as a man. Yet, as I see you now, son, tired and crumpled in your cot, I see that you are still a child. You were in your mother’s arms yesterday, with your head on her back.
Importance of being an Ideal father
You can see different kinds of individuals in life and the various ways to teach their children how to act in public or to their own relatives. A father is not an individual who only cares about himself and is not responsible for taking care of his kids. Someone who loves you and cares for you is the ideal father. They must spend time together to explain how to act or communicate with others.
A successful father is someone who has a child’s best interests in mind. That involves the child’s well-being, physically, mentally, and socially.
An ideal father is also someone who gives their child a good example. Your kid would do the same if you use bad things. If you steal from another guy, he’ll do the same thing. Avoiding doing these acts will make your kid think because he will feel that if my father didn’t do it, I should do the same thing.
Other Characteristics of an ideal Father
The environment you grew up in definitely affects how you view your role as a father. Some parents from their own childhood or present-day lives attempt to ‘fix’ issues. What may happen is they put their child with unrealistic expectations.
The life of a child can be packed with stresses, from school children, teachers, r coaches, to just everyday life. Help your child understand their needs and determine their strengths and set objectives that are achievable. Encourage them to achieve their full potential, but by asking them to accomplish what you have accomplished or wished to have accomplished, stop living vicariously through them.
One of the most significant and difficult things you can do is to be a good parent! Spend time each day listening and communicating with your children. In my own view, when you need him, a good father would be someone who is there for you and spends time with you doing things involving two people.
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