Over Protecting Parents Effects
Over Protecting Parents Effects
Why do South Asian parents need to teach their children tools on how to handle life and people instead of overprotecting?
South Asian parents tend to overprotect their children via many rules and regulations that their children can and cannot do.
Children will do what they want anyway without their parents’ knowledge.
To keep them safer, it is better to teach children how to make the right choices, be a good judge of character, and deal with red flags that come up in situations.
Parents are not always in the know, can see what is going on or protect their children, hence teaching good decision-making skills, a high level of self-esteem, self-respect, and standards amongst morals and values would be critical.
Over Protecting Parents Effects: children do not communicate for the fear of repercussions or just plainly not to worry you.
Give your children the tools, strategies, maps, and the right mindset to function in the world.
As they grow old, spend time with your children as a friend. Get to know their friends. These friends have a huge influence on your children and can give you an indication of what is going on.
There are South Asian girls doing some very inappropriate, self-sabotaging, and disrespectful things to themselves without their parents’ knowledge.
This is an open dialogue to start a conversation and find solutions for children to be more independent, capable, and safe.
While growing up, I wasn’t surrounded by family. I was the only child. And I had no one of my age in my cousins, there were only some older ones.
so I thought the strict rules I had were normal. It wasn’t until I got older. Did I realize that my parents were being way too overprotective! I wasn’t being prepared for the world… Instead I was being taught to fear it although I grew up in an Asian household.
I was lucky that my parents weren’t too hard on my grades as long as I didn’t get anything under a B. But I would often get compared to my older cousin who had straight A’s. And I always had to show my report cards to everybody in the family and receive an informal gaze.
My parents never thought I could make decisions for myself. I was always told what to do or where I always felt like I had to behave myself and I couldn’t truly express myself before. I learned how to drive. I couldn’t go to parties or friends’ houses, couldn’t have sleepovers; and I couldn’t sneak out because we had an alarm system and I didn’t know the code. I couldn’t date until I was 18, and had to ask permission for everything. It’s been implanted in my brain and something that I’ve been trying to change to this day!
I never had any privacy. My mom would always barge in. I could drive at 17. I could finally go out but not without worrying about breaking curfew. My dad would constantly check up on me even when I was at a friend’s house. At one point his ringtone became it insta night by All American Rejects.
When I was given a computer, my dad would always monitor my computer activities. He always knew what I was up to. Lastly, I feared the consequences of defying my parents. And I feared making mistakes for the punishment.
I know that parenting isn’t an easy task and most parents want the best for their children but, if the child is constantly in a bubble, how will they ever grow? I felt like I had to learn things the hard way and I want to say that I’ve overcome how I was raised but that would be a lie! I’m still trying to change old habits that I was taught and trying to finally be me!
